There are three main factors that may determine whether you will get your ex back. The factors will be discussed further but let’s start with the most important thing – why did you cheat?
For most people in a relationship, monogamy is hard; in fact it’s even unnatural. However, these are not enough excuses for you to cheat. You made the commitment to be faithful to your partner, the moment you agreed to enter into are a serious relationship. It is a biding promise to be with that person and nobody else. The question remains: why?
Why would you hurt the person you claim to love? Why would you betray the trust they had in you? Most people think that there are different reasons for men and women to cheat. The general opinion states that men cheat for sex or lust. They mainly cheat because they cannot control their sexual desires and they have a desire to have sex with a lot of women.
When it comes to women, people say they cheat because of emotional needs that are lacking in their current relationship. Women will cheat with someone they are emotionally attracted to and not just because of lust or sexual desires. However, experts argue that this is not the case.
It is very possible for men or women to cheat for a physical and/or emotional need(s). It means that the reasons for cheating depend on the specific person, and there are three main reasons why most people cheat.
There are people who cheat as a result of spur of the moment. This is the kind of person who will find someone attractive after having some few drinks. You only realize when it’s too late that you already made a mistake and in different circumstances you would have done it different.
Some people will cheat because their current relationship is experiencing problems. You will feel that you are not satisfied with the relationship. People who find themselves in such a condition will end up starting an affair that will end up destroying their relationships.
You have made a mistake, destroyed a perfect relationship and you want it back, there are a number of factors that will determine if you will get your ex back. The first thing is the level of investment there had in you before you cheated. The level of investment can be measured by time spent together, whether you had kids or not and how much you loved one another.
If you were only in a relationship for a short time and you were caught cheating, your partner will probably walk away. For those people who had dated for a while and they maybe had kids – most people will tend to think twice and try to work and maintain the relationship.
Your level of cheating will also determine whether you can mend your broken relationship or not. There is no small cheating or big cheating they are all the same but there are some levels of cheating that are not easy to forget. Was it just a random kiss in a club or you slept with their sister of brother?
It is clear, the worse you cheated, the harder it will be to be forgiven. It will even be harder to regain the level of trust that you lost. However there is a third factor that is mainly the determinant factor.
You hurt the person you loved the most and broke their heart in a way that they cannot trust you again. What matters here is whether the person is seeing some hope in your future together. Can they be able to trust you again?
The moment you cheated and did all the things you promised not to do, all trust in you went away too. It is the human nature to look for hope in even difficult situations and you ex is not different. She or he will be wishing that the time and efforts she had dedicated to the relationship will not go to waste. There is a part of them that wishes this should not have happened. They miss the old life.
It is your job to make sure that you give them hope, hope that you will change and they can learn to trust you again…